Spare the spoiling and Beat that Child
Do we punish the child ? Do we enforced such physical punishment ? or Do we rape their pride and emotional mind ?
That is the question which has no answers. Punishment to teach a child, whether a simple spanking or a verbal scolding is welcomed. But to punish a child, till he or she bleeds or till he or she is afraid of society, that is something Serge cannot tolerate. The article above was highlighted by Andreas, which Serge found extremely apalling.
Becoming devil spawns and shoving our child into a suitcase because a child came back late, just goes to prove that even as adults, we still do not and still don’t understand that as a parent and as an adult it is our responsibility to limit the size of our punishment. Serge is not saying that you should spoil your child, what he is trying to say to you is that; if you want to reprimand your child for anything you will must realize that you’re twice as big and twice as powerful as your child. Your child is frail, a simple spank or denying your child permission to watch his/her favourite television will be suffecient.
Serge is not into violence, so in most cases he likes the way Dale Carnegie wrote on how a boy who wets his bed stopped wetting the bed. It goes something like this, do be aware that Serge is writing what he can remembers without the actual reference in his hand right now.
There was once a boy name Mark who lived with his parents, a sweet boy age 8. He was loving and kind, the only problem he had was that he always wet his bed after he sleeps. Of course his parents were angry with him, but even after months of spanking and verbal punishment; he still wetted his bed. Even at the age of 9 he did the same. So the parents, asked him what he wanted. The son told that he wanted his own bed and to be able to wear pyjamas just like daddy. The parents agreed on the condition that all of this will be taken away if he wetted his bed again. After getting everything and choosing his very own bed, he didn’t wet his bed anymore.
You see, that boy had a reason not to wet his bed anymore. His pride was on the line not to mention he got his very own bed. For a boy that age, that is like striking gold. Therefore to parents out there, if your son or daughter does something bad…why not ask them what happen and why did they do that ? Maybe, just maybe you can find a simple and non physical way to teach and reprimand your child without the use of punishment.